Please note: this guide is general information for parents, not medical, psychological or other professional advice, and it can’t take your child’s individual situation into account. If you’re worried about your child’s health, wellbeing or safety, speak to their school or a qualified professional such as your family doctor. In an emergency, contact your local emergency number.
How much gaming is too much depends less on a number of hours and more on what gaming is pushing out. If your child still sleeps well, does their homework, sees friends, moves their body and can stop without a battle, gaming is probably in balance. Here are the signs to watch for, how to choose suitable games, and limits that work without a war.
The good side of gaming
Games can involve problem-solving, creativity, teamwork and persistence, and they’re a big part of many children’s friendships. Banning them outright often makes them more attractive. The goal is balance and good choices.
Signs gaming may be out of balance
- Sleep is being cut short.
- Homework is rushed or skipped.
- Other interests and in-person friends are dropped.
- Strong anger or distress when gaming ends, most days.
- Lying about how much they play.
- Gaming seems to be the only thing that makes them happy.
If these signs are persistent and come with changes in mood or behaviour, talk to your family doctor.
Choosing suitable games
- Check the age rating and the reasons for it (violence, language, online interaction, in-game purchases).
- Watch or play together for a while — it’s the quickest way to understand a game.
- Ask about online features: can strangers chat or join? Are there purchases?
Online play: what to set up
- Restrict chat to friends they know in real life, or switch it off for younger children.
- Require approval for purchases.
- Agree that they’ll tell you if anyone is unkind or asks for personal information.
More in how to keep kids safe online.
Limits that work
- Gaming after homework and outdoor time.
- Agree the amount in advance, with more at weekends if you like.
- Stop at natural breaks — save points, end of a match.
- Warnings before time is up.
- Consoles and devices out of bedrooms at night.
See how to limit screen time without daily fights for the hard moment when it ends.
Use their passion for learning
A child who knows every detail of their favourite game often has a strong memory and real persistence. Those are learning skills. Explaining school topics through the world of their game can make lessons click.
Frequently asked questions
How many hours of video games a day is OK for a child?
There’s no single right number. Look at balance: sleep, homework, activity and friendships. Check your national health guidance for screen time by age.
Are video games bad for kids?
Not inherently. Content, amount and what gaming replaces matter. Many games involve problem-solving and social connection.
My child gets angry when I stop their game. What can I do?
Agree limits in advance, give warnings, stop at natural breaks, and stay calm and consistent.
Should I let my child play online with strangers?
For younger children, limiting chat to friends they know is a common approach. Review settings together and keep talking about who they play with.
Next steps
Play your child’s favourite game with them this week and ask them to teach you. Then agree limits together using the steps above.